38 weeks and she is about to pop. Today, we went to the doctor for cautionary reasons. The baby momma hasn’t been feeling well so we had to make sure she and the baby are good. Anyways everything turned out well and the doctor said that the last couple of weeks will be miserable for the mom. All I can say is that I’m excited and I can’t wait.
So anyways on a different note I want to re-introduce myself. I feel like ever since I started this blog, I never really gave a bit of history of myself. Why? probably out of paranoia but as long as nothing too specific then it would be alright. So who is this “guy”?? Well I’m a blue collar college student that lives in Florida. I love punk and hip hop. I play the drums and I used to be in a band. I love art and I’m currently majoring in Graphic Design. I have a dog, shes a chowlab mix and she is the best dog ever. I love to cook and bake because I love to eat. I’m excited about the arrival and I really don’t care about anything else.
So I went to my first ever baby shower a few days ago and it was quite entertaining. It wasn’t a huge crowd and all, just a small group of the moms co-workers. Granted I was the only guy in the shower but I had a great time. I’ve noticed the trend that if you’re having a girl, you’re almost certain that most of the things you will get will have something pink in it which is awesome. Played games, had a few laughs, ate pizza, watched Kill Bill (very baby shower appropriate). So in a way I was very happy that the mom got a baby shower ( I believe this is her second baby shower) and I got to experience it too as well. Less than 4 weeks guys and gals!
So I don’t know if I mentioned it before that the due date of my baby is March 18th. As we all know that babies don’t usually follow the exact delivery schedule so many people are predicting that it will be a late baby but I’m thinking it will be early (about a week). It’s probably because I just can’t wait. What do you guys think??
I can’t believe the time went by really quick and only 6 weeks to go. It has been an interesting last few months. I know I haven’t been as active in my tumblr and I would like to apologize for that. In fact all I’ve been doing is school and work and in a way, I haven’t had any free time to update any of my social networking sites. Although I need to be back in the game because the phrase “no time” shouldn’t exist in my dictionary especially now the near arrival of my daughter. I can’t wait. March 18 guys and gals! The start of Dad in Progress will be on its way!
I started writing this draft about a week ago and was meaning to post it by the 18th but I just wasn’t able to do it. I was so busy with work that I barely touched my computer last week. I’ve used my Iphone more for internet than my computer :-p
Three months! can I say it again? THREE MONTHS!!! that’s how much more to go until the most precious beautiful amazing Emilene will arrive in our world. Can I wait? No I cant! Am I super nervous? Of course I am! The mom and I are about to embark on a new journey and I have a lot of things to learn. As a new parent, Why wouldn’t I freak out? Four months ago, I started reading literature’s about parenthood, I joined blog sites and I even started my own. But you know what? after all that I’m still pretty nervous because she hasn’t arrived yet. Its a good start though but none of that will matter until she arrives.
Now I haven’t been super active in my blog and I do apologize for that. However I do have my reasons and I’ll say this ahead of time, I won’t have as much posts as I used to at least for now. Here are a few reasons:
-As a expectant father’s view, its kind of hard to post an entry everyday because I haven’t really experience of having a baby because she hasn’t been born yet :-p (durr!!)
-Obviously I’m not the one who’s pregnant so I’m not feeling the random kicks, movements the baby is doing and the morning sickness, body aches Etc and If I was, trust me I’ll be posting it everyday.
-There’s not a lot of blogs that are being run by expecting parents (its mostly parents who already have the baby) and if there is, its the moms who has it. I haven’t seen an expectant father blog yet and I don’t blame them. It can be pretty challenging for the fact that the man is not the one who’s carrying so kudos to the mothers.
-I made a promise to myself that this blog is only gonna be about the journey of me being a dad to my daughter so all of the unrelated complaints, drama, and work is automatically thrown out.
-We still have three months to go and posting facts that I read from the book or the web can get slightly repetitive so I stopped doing it.
This doesn’t mean I won’t be posting anymore but for just the time being, it will be limited. I’ll still be active within the tumblr parent community but won’t be posting as much for the mean time. My posts should regularly resume after the arrival of the most precious beautiful amazing Emilene ( Did I say that already?? :-p) I love her, I love the mom, I love my friends and family and I wish everyone a happy holidays!!!
Growing up in the generation y category, I can say that it has been pretty interesting. Keep in mind I never really thought about what difference each generation has. My parents are Generation X (60’s- early 80’s) kids and lets see what crazy things happened that time: Vietnam War, hippie movement, oil crisis, AIDS epidemic, loan crisis, etc. Generation Y (80’s - 90’s) kids: Gulf War, oil crisis, AIDS epidemic getting worse, national debt increasing, etc. Generation Z (90’s - 2010) kids: Afghanistan/Iraq War, AIDS epidemic still there, Recession, Oil crisis, Hipster movement.
hmmm…in a way, each generation aren’t that different.
I’m wondering how my kid’s generation is gonna be like :-p
As I’m gathering all the stuff that I’m bringing with me for the move, I’ve noticed that I have been given enough stuff to make a baby room (minus the crib). I feel really grateful that there are people out there actually looking out for me. As of now, all of the stuff are gonna be in a corner of my room or in the closet in my new apartment since the baby is not due until march but at least I can say I’m a step ready. Am I excited for the move? Of course I am. I’m not looking forward for the drive ( I hate driving) but I’m looking forward to actually have my own place again, sleep on my own bed, and most of all, Ill be close to the baby and the mother so I can actually be there during the progress! The downside is that I’m gonna miss a lot of people. I guess I just have to rely on social networks to keep up :-p
Packing this weekend and leaving this Tuesday. I hope the next time you hear from me, I’ll be at my new place.
21 weeks and counting! From the moms report, the baby’s been super active. I’ve always wondered the feeling of a growing human inside you and starts kicking you from the inside…hmmmm..actually I take that back. The mom said that sometimes it hurts when the baby does it and everytime I think about it, It just sounds really painful.
One more week until I move back to Tallahassee and being as excited as I am, I still am gonna miss Miami because of the people I hung out and worked with. I have been lucky so far that every workplace I’ve been to, everybody has been great. I’ll definitely miss them.
One last thing for now: This 2 weeks is gonna be r-o-u-g-h just because of all the packing and doing last minute things before I move.
Sorry guys I haven’t updated my blog, its been a crazy busy week and it seemed like it passed by really quick! My schedule lately has been school-work-school-work. Its also mid term week for me so that means extra studying time. I have no problem with it, keeping busy is always good anyways.
Now the update on the progress. The mom is 20 weeks today! you know what that means?? She’s halfway there! Every single day, my excitement keeps growing and I just can’t wait (I lost count on how many times I’ve said that). So according to fruit to baby comparisons, my baby should be the same length of a banana and apparently at this stage, she should be able to hear more of the moms heartbeat and voice which is awesome!
Im sorry but I just can’t help it. I am so excited to find out what the gender of the baby is tomorrow! A boy or a girl? that is the question. For me it doesn’t matter, I just cant wait and I probably wont be able to sleep tonight!
I will teach you how to draw and paint, I will teach you to play music, I will teach how to play sports. These are the three things that I know I’m good at and enjoy. I can’t wait to welcome you in this world.
I’ve always said to myself, whenever I have a kid I will definitely teach him/her how to play a musical instrument. I’ve been playing drums for 11 years now and it was a major part of my life so I figured I should pass it along to my kid. It doesn’t necessarily have to be drums but some sort of musical instrument (guitar, keys, or maybe even a violin). I get really excited just thinking about it. Now don’t take it the wrong way that all I think about is music. Not at all but I love it. I mean c’mon, who doesn’t like music? and on top of that, playing it would be a bonus ( I dare you to disagree with me ). However, my question now is when should I start teaching?(oh dear..) I did a little research and apparently babies start to bang on things more frequently at around 8 months. Whether this is true or not, I’ll definitely have my pots and pans ready for some jamming. I can’t wait for that and I’m sure mommy can’t wait for it either :-p .
It’s hard to understand your partners feelings towards pregnancy especially if you’re not the one who’s carrying it. No matter how many people will tell me that its normal, I still struggle at times on grasping their situation. Am I not suppose to or am I not trying hard enough? For me, its a battle between the two. I want to understand but as a man, I feel pretty limited. I mean a child is growing inside someones belly so I’m sure thats a lot of work and knowing that should be a good enough reason to be more understanding and be 100 times patient. I think as for Fathers, its also a good time to practice unselfishness, be more understanding, patience, caring, loving, discipline..you get the point. Its a work in progress so far and its been quite interesting but I can tell for sure that I will take everything into my heart and continue learning because thats part of the progress and it never ends. I’m not practicing perfectionism here but I am taking baby steps into learning on how to do this.
Nothing crazy or out of the ordinary had been happening. I guess I would say its been a normal progress for a pregnant lady. One downside is I’m 8 hours away so it sucks not being able to be there. A few more months to go and after getting settled down, I would be able to get a full hands on experience and help out. But anyways here’s whats going to happen:
“Please don’t tell me you’d die for your kid. Of course I feel the same way. I’d give my boy all internal organs, run into a burning building, etc. But I don’t feel the need to mention it in conversation. This is a dinner party, not “The Road.””—A quote I read in Neurotic Dad ‘s blog. Hilarious
I posted a few things that I felt needed to be addressed a couple of days ago (some rules and regulations) but when my girlfriend told me that it wasn’t working I went ahead and checked it out. I saw it was working but then that’s when my whole layout disappeared. I’ve managed to fix it and when everything seems set and done, I saw that the link to the article wasn’t working. It’s very frustrating when you don’t know what just happened but anyways I re-posted it and here’s the link http://bit.ly/qFKQKu
A couple of days ago, My co-workers and I started talking about names and one of them asked me if I would include a middle name. Well of course my answer was yes but it made me think that there are people out there that doesn’t have middle names. Call me old school but that’s weird…just saying
What do you guys think? Can you name me a famous person who doesn’t have a middle name?
First I want to say thank you for visiting my blog. I am truly grateful that you guys are taking the time looking through my site and I hope you find it interesting and helpful. As the blog described, I am a soon to be dad and truly excited (and nervous) for whats coming and quite frankly I can’t wait. Just a short after creating this blog, I decided to put a little bit of rules and regulations here (yes like the ones you see in schools, institutions, churches,etc. but not as strict). Learning from previous mistakes, I want to make sure that the site stays clean and proper but honest at the same time. This is considered a parental blog so I’m sure parents out there understand.
So here are a few things you should know:
Cursing and profanity is a automatic no no I don’t mean that other parents out there can’t either. Go crazy if you want! I just wont allow it in my blog. This is out of respect for my girlfriend and the upcoming baby. So lets try to make it as PG as we can :-)
All of my personal pictures will be watermarked I hate watermarking pictures. I think it ruins it but I have to cover my basis here and make sure everything thats mine is MINE so weirdos out there can’t take my pictures and create a fake family. This pertains to the pictures who are close to me. Every other picture that is not mine will be credited.
I will not get into specifics The only person you’ll know by first name is me and the baby. No one else. Again this is out of respect for my family. You’ll just know them as “girlfriend”, “brother”, “sister”, “mom”, “friend” etc. you get the idea.
I won’t talk about work Why? I didn’t create this blog to talk about work so forget about it. I may talk about what happened at work but only related to the theme of this blog nothing else.
The only blogs I’ll be following will only be Moms, Dads, Families, and anything related to the three. Sorry musicians, emo kids, and spammers. This blog is family specific and I have to stay with the theme. You can follow me but I wont follow you. However if your blog contains explicit material, you will be officially blocked by this >guy<.
Father Facts: The Importance of Being an Active Dad
I stumbled on this article last night and I thought it was very important for current and future dads. Reading it gave me an incite of how important a dad needs to stay active with their kids. Hopefully you guys enjoy this as much as I did. The excitement is building up!
by Doug Gertner
Fathers matter, we are aware of that, but we may not know exactly what a male presence brings to children and families. Stop for just a moment and ask yourself “what’s most important about being (or having) an active dad in the picture?” You can probably come up with several good reasons why fathers should be integrally involved with their kids and partners.
Adding to your top reasons are several research findings summarized by Dr. Kyle D. Pruett in his book Fatherneed: Why Father Care Is As Essential As Mother Care for Your Child (2001, Broadway Books), including the following:
-Infants who have time alone with their dad show richer social and exploratory behavior than children not exposed to such experiences.
-One of the most critical roles that a dad plays in the life of his child is during the toddler years, age 1 ½ - 3 ½, is helping the child safely and securely separate from the intense maternal dependency of infancy.
-Fathers help children individuate – he is typically more willing to let a child out of his sight than mom will. A father will let the child crawl twice as far as mom will before retrieving the infant.
-Young people who have fathers actively participating in their lives are less likely to engage in criminal activities or abuse of drugs and alcohol.
-Father involvement is the strongest parent-related predictor in the development of empathy; it’s also associated with development of problem-solving behavior and reduced sibling conflict and aggression
-Even when fathers do not live at home, children whose fathers are actively involved in their lives tend to have fewer behavioral problems.
-Kids with involved, responsive dads are much more successful academically, and have a higher likelihood of going to college. Then all we have to do is figure out how to pay for it…
-Involved dads reduce the parenting burden that more often falls on mothers.
-Children with two loving, involved parents benefit from the wealth of each parent’s life experiences, different styles, and approaches to dealing with life.
Whether you are looking at the research, or simply seeing the joy on a child’s face when dad is there and engaged, the facts cannot escape us: dads make a difference. Mothers, fathers, and children need to work together to be sure that, as the current saying goes “ no one gets left behind” in the family.
I love The Beatles (who doesn’t???… don’t answer that ) I was jamming out with my Itunes then the song “Here comes the sun” started playing and I thought “this would be an awesome song to add to my blog”. It happens to be one of my favorite Beatles song so here you go!
note: The song I uploaded here was performed by a different artist. Tumblr wouldn’t let upload the original song
I read this article in Babycenter.com. I think it’s a helpful incite of what the usual fears that expecting fathers will face. I honestly am going through some of the fears that was listed but after reading it made me understand better and it’s totally normal to have these feelings. I mean having a baby is part of a very important chapter in life and it should be taken seriously so you start thinking a million things in your head and it can be overwhelming. So take a breather and after reading this article, I hope it will somewhat calm your nerves down..maybe for just a little bit.
Since creating this blog, four months(+) of the pregnancy have already passed by so I figure I will give you a quick summary of whats been happening so far.
"I totally felt I got knocked out after finding out that my girlfriend is pregnant and my reaction was …speechless."
Well kinda speechless. I honestly just didn’t know what to say to her, to myself and pretty much just felt I had that blank face. Of course I got really nervous and scared, I think that’s a natural reaction to a lot guys out there but at the same time, I was in the process of getting prepared and telling myself “its gonna be okay”.
I consider myself as being a completely normal human being ( i hope :-p) and I was trying to figure out what to tell my girlfriend that it will be fine. And I would say that comforting her was pretty hard because I was trying my best not to say the wrong things. I mean at that point, both can be very emotional and sometimes you just don’t know what to say. And of course..I might have said the wrong things that time.
So weeks pass by, we went to see the doctor and after seeing the little bean from the ultrasound, I was ecstatic just to see it moving and on top of that, We were fortunate enough to hear the heartbeat. Everything went silent except for the heartbeat in my head. I knew at that moment that this will be a start of a new story .
First of all, I want to say welcome to my blog! I’m a dad in progress (well, will be). My girlfriend is currently four months pregnant and I decided that I wanted to share my experience with you guys! In this blog, I will be posting any helpful tips that I’m getting so far from friends, family, and also, books. I can say that I am very excited and can’t wait until the due date arrives (march baby!! woohoo!!) but as of now, I will be writing what I have been experiencing and with all the great excited things set aside, challenges are there to come too so brace yourself future dads! it’s gonna be an interesting ride.